Long distance: both tough but manageable. As I mentioned before, romance was not the only thing I had to learn to balance my time but I also had to keep my own friends close regardless of the distance. It’s a struggle for sure, but at the end of the day, it’s manageable and worth it. Here’s some tips to keep in mind when you’re trying to juggle multiple area codes:
Reading between the lines
Technology can both be our best friend or worst enemy. It’s 2016 and it’s getting easier and easier to provide simple communication across the globe. Having said that, be mindful of how you read or even shoot out your text messages. It’s easy to misinterpret someone’s sense of humour for a rude comment. Last thing you want to do is blowing up each other’s phone and burning bridges over a simple text.
Make the time and effort to reach out. Put it out there to ask how things are going, put an hour or two out of your time once in a month if your schedule is too chaotic to make that phone call to catch up. Reach out for selflessness reasons, not simply because you’re lonely.
Don’t be greedy when you see your BFF create new bonds with people. It’s only human to create social networking groups based on their environment and growth. Understand that although you two may have created a special bond, don’t be so overbearing. Just like romantic relationships, everyone needs their own space to grow into the individual they want to be and the more you congest your BFF, the more further they drift away. Being jealous has never been an attractive trait.
Time differences can sometimes be a pain, but it’s manageable just don’t expect a reply to a text at 5AM within 5 seconds. Make do-able plans. Create visits based on each other’s schedule and don’t forget to alternate those visits. It’s a give and take, not a 1-way street.
At the end of the day the relationships you create with people whether they be romantic or not requires you to put in effort to keep the bond close and true. With distance, you must be willing to put in a little more of yourself and you need to make the decision who is worth that extra hard work… because no matter the distance, you’ll never be too far from your BFF when you keep each other close in your heart.