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Why Fashion Shouldn’t Be About Your Body Size + Giveaway

So you’re not a size 0, now what?

Over time and time again, the media has depicted the term ‘beauty’ in that if you don’t fit the ideals of what is considered thin then you’re not considered attractive. I want to start off by stating that I don’t put myself on a strict diet and I love food – as most of us do – but I do watch what I eat and it took me a long time to just simply accept the body that I have. Yes, there are times where I am still self-conscious but I try real hard not to bring me down nor allow myself not to find my sense of style. We’re only human right?

Growing up in a traditional Filipino household, rice is something we all ate almost religiously. I also grew up where fat-shaming is considered normal to our culture. Although Filipinos are often known to be the nicest people on earth, sometimes their words can cut deeper than knives. When I was a child, I went to the Philippines with my grandmother in hopes that I would do my education there – however, a year or so later I fell sick and flew back to Canada. While I was there, I quickly learned the language but resented my time there due to my illness.

Over time, I started to gain weight, found my own sense of style and of course, hit puberty. After I graduated from high school my family made a point to visit the Philippines every 5 years or so. If it wasn’t already bad enough dealing with high school and its judgemental teens, it doesn’t get any better going back to the motherland. Don’t get me wrong, the Philippines is gorgeous, however, if you have some meat on your bones your cousins, aunts, and uncles will definitely make a point out of it. By this time, I can’t speak the language anymore but I still understood Filipino. Even if I lost my ability to understand, the judgemental stare is a universal language we all know.

Mind you, out of respect I wore appropriate attire where my assets weren’t popping out but the constant “ahh, she’s so big now.”, “You shouldn’t eat so much.” and “You’re even bigger than your mom.” statements still came in. One time, I was excited to go shopping and wanted to buy a new bra. When I asked for my size, it was as if I was asking for a unicorn. So you can only imagine the embarrassment I felt as I walked out and lost my excitement to shop.

I eventually got over it.

Years passed and I started to build a tougher skin, started to evolve in my own sense of style and when I went back to the Philippines again, I just decided to dismiss the criticisms and walk away. I’m not going to lie and say it’s easy because it still affects me when I hear it – it just doesn’t demotivate me or love myself less. When my uncle visits, he doesn’t stop himself when he calls me a hippo or asks J why he chose to be with me when I’m fat. (For the record, J answered saying, No I’m not fat, I’m pretty. *brownie points*) I just choose to walk away. I have chosen to walk away from anything that brings negativity, especially towards my body. I’ve worked so hard to finally accept my own sense of beauty that I don’t want to surround myself around people’s criticisms about my body.

This isn’t a pity post

but rather, empowering anyone who feels less beautiful because of society’s ideals of what is defined “attractive”. I’m not a size 0 nor do I shop for plus sizes but I do sometimes shop for bigger clothing to ensure it fits me properly. Just because I have curves doesn’t necessarily mean it’s easy for me to find the perfect size nor do some clothes make me look flattering. I struggle to find the perfect pair of jeans without showing too much of my muffin top or a nice bra without a tit falling out. I don’t have a thigh gap and I don’t have a flat stomach but I still find ways to embrace fashion with my own personal touch to it. I’m not here to say I’m this big fashion blogger or idol, but I created my own sense of style from simply learning the ability to love my body. If I can overcome all the negativity on a daily basis and still be able to put on the flattering outfit — I believe anyone can.

We may not be able to change how culture or tradition came to be when it comes to body-shaming but we can change how we perceive beauty and treat people regardless of their size. You don’t have to be thin or have curves to have style, you just need to be confident in who you are. Fashion is art and if you make your body your canvas, the options are limitless.

You just need to come out of your shell and start somewhere.

To help empower you, I wanted to gift one lucky reader their own outfit. Style comes from within you, so I’m giving away:

  • $75 gift-card from Pink Blush
  • A Free pair of Bearpaw Shoes

All you have to do is:

For additional entries:

  • Tag your friends on the Instagram post here
  • Comment below on what you love about your body + your Instagram handle 

This giveaway will run from 05/22/2017 – 05/25/2017 and the random winner will be announced within 24 hours via Instagram DM! This giveaway is not sponsored or endorsed by Instagram. Must be 18 years or older to enter. Open to entrants within the U.S. or have a valid U.S. shipping address. Those who have won a Pink Blush or Bear Paw giveaway within the last 6 months will not be eligible to win. 

Blog Post Details:
Dress: Pink Blush
Wedges: BearPaw
Bracelets: Boho Betty
Photographer: Arielle Tabelon 

 

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10 Comments

  • Reply Candy

    Glenny you look so adorable in that red dress and the wedges are a perfect match for it. I also love your beautiful smile 🙂

    May 22, 2017 at 3:59 PM
  • Reply Marisa

    Omg I love your outfit here so much babe! Can’t wait to see you when u visit Cali!! 🙂 @mariseeezy

    May 22, 2017 at 4:18 PM
  • Reply Candace

    PinkBlush is one of my favorite online stores! They literally have clothes for anyone you can think of! No worries about the rude comments. You are slaying girl and continue to flaunt those assets and curves 🙂

    May 22, 2017 at 7:17 PM
  • Reply Jennifer Morales

    I love your dress… you look great in it. You’re smile says it all!

    May 22, 2017 at 8:00 PM
  • Reply Sheree

    I love this positive and encouraging post! Its so sad but true that our society puts so much pressure on young girls to be thin and coming from a Chinese background, I know all too well that a visit to homeland visiting relatives is basically a comparison fest. I think by accepting ourselves and promoting positive self images we can somewhat show that there are all kinds of beauty.

    xo Sheree
    PoshClassyMom

    May 23, 2017 at 1:54 AM
  • Reply lanaluu

    You look great, and there is nothing about size but personality. Thank you for sharing us your story!

    May 23, 2017 at 1:58 AM
  • Reply Style&Life by Susana (@StyleBySusana)

    Gllenny, you are just so freaking adorable, so adorable!! And you ever inspiring. I felt your your journey from when you were growing up. Your are so beautiful. I love the dress!!! Gorgeous and the colour looks amazing on you!

    May 23, 2017 at 4:26 AM
  • Reply nbosken

    I’m sorry that they made you feel that way and said such harsh things. There really is no excuse. People should accept you for you. I’m glad you’ve gotten over and don’t care. And also as a sidenote, I’ve been wanting to visit the Philippines since forever. It looks amazing there.

    May 23, 2017 at 4:38 PM
  • Reply Aubrie

    Glenny, you look absolutely beautiful in these pictures, but I especially love what you wrote and loved hearing about your journey to finding your own style and confidence. You are beautiful!

    May 23, 2017 at 11:11 PM
  • Reply LaShonda Brown

    I entered your giveaway! Fantastic idea for a post and I hope this does empower the woman who gets to wear it!

    May 24, 2017 at 4:51 PM
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